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I hate speaking on the phone…

07/03/2016 12 Comments

I’ve got a problem, a ridiculous but real problem.

I hate speaking on the phone.

Email me, Skype me, WhatsApp me, DM me… do what you like… but call me & I break out into a cold sweat. My phone buzzes away on my desk and I stare at it, willing it to stop, regardless of who it is.

There’s something about the phone ringing that seems so intrusive. It’s not on my terms, it’s forced on me. I can’t choose when to reply or how to do it. I can’t think about what I’m saying, I can’t go back and edit. I hate it.

phone ringing

I’ve always known that it’s something I’m uncomfortable with, but I didn’t realise that it was a thing until my husband pointed it out. Apparently when we first met, we’d speak on the phone & I’d rush to end the call as quickly as possible. The poor thing must have thought that I was completely disinterested in him… maybe that’s how I snagged him… playing it cool without meaning to!

I can’t help but think that as we spend more time using messaging apps, we’ll find fewer people actually speaking. Even now, with collaboration tools such as Slack, I can find myself messaging colleagues sat just a couple of desks away, rather than going over to speak to them. It’s something that I’m actively tackling – no amount of emojis can make up for conveying emotion the way conversation does after all.

Am I strange? Does anyone else hate speaking on the phone? I can’t be the only one… right?

M xox

Melanie Kentish

Hi! My name's Mel and I'm a 30 something blogger living in Windsor, UK with my two ginger cats and a rather handsome husband. White Cotton Peonies is the place where you'll find my ramblings on health, fashion, beauty, food and my random adventures as a soon-to-be mum. Enjoy.


  1. Maria


    I have exactly the same “problem”. I actually even got a really good job offered to me, but since it meant I would have to be about 30% of the day on the phone… I said “NO” immediately.
    I just don’t like the feeling and I’ve always been like that, even before all the messaging and texting. I thought I’m the only one 🙂

    Maria x

    • Melanie Kentish


      I’d be totally the same Maria… you’re not the only one x

  2. Sarah parmenter


    I’m exactly the same Mel. Exactly the same. I hate the phone. Apparently it’s a symptom of anxiety too.

    • Melanie Kentish


      I can completely understand that! It literally brings me into panic mode!

  3. Katie


    No, not strange at all, I’m exactly the same. Especially if there are other people in ear shot! Xx

    • Melanie Kentish


      Oh god, me too. I have to wander off somewhere! 🙂 xx

  4. Angie Silver (@SilverSpoonLDN)


    I actually have this problem too, if I’m going to speak with someone, I’d rather talk face to face!

    • Melanie Kentish


      Me too Angie.. although I’d much rather send them an email ? x

  5. Hannah


    I’m the same! Many years ago I did a stint in a ferry company call centre. Sat there with a headset on with loads of other people sat around you, in earshot! The training was the hardest because I had to be listened in on – eurgh, horrid. I like any other forms of communication rather than phone calls, so much easier! Oh and years ago I had a phone interview for a job in Australia (which I thought would be so much better than face to face). It was so awful, with long pauses etc that I panicked and hung up when I was struggling with a question. They rang back, blaming the connection and I ended up getting the job! ha ha. I didn’t go though in the end though as I met my husband xx

    • Melanie Kentish


      Thank goodness for meeting your husband – that could have ended up with a whole load of bad connections 😀 So glad that I’m not the only one xx

  6. Bells


    Haha I’m like this!! It must be why we all blog…… 😉 x

    • Melanie Kentish


      Haha, absolutely xx

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