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Am I too old for social media or just really content?

02/02/2016 10 Comments

I’m worried. I think I’m getting too old for social media…or too boring…

There was a time where my whole life was spent online, jeez, I joined Twitter in 2006 for goodness sake. The multiple occasions I’ve moved to a new city or travelled to a new country on my own, it’s helped me to feel connected, acting as amazing company, but you know, things change.

SXSW 2007

SXSW 2007

Now I question whether everyone wants to know what I’m having for breakfast, whether they really care about the outfit I’m wearing or hear me rant about companies providing awful customer service. I feel anxious when I know it’s been a while without tweeting anything, but I just don’t want to be irrelevant.

Facebook for me is pretty much the same. I am ALL OVER IT when I’m on holiday & uploading smug posts, natch, but in every day life, it’s great for staying up to date with what family are doing & being a bit nosey sometimes, but other than that… again, I’m just a bit meh!

Hashtag Smugface

Hashtag Smugface

Now let’s not get carried away, I’m not going to become a social hermit…but I’m definitely finding that my social media tastes are changing. I read more blogs – I enjoy reading properly what people are up to, taking in their advice on experiences that I’m going through or just to look at the pretty pictures. I’m constantly on Instagram, not just because I’m lazy but I now find it an awesome way of finding indie designers/brands that I would want to buy. When I get the time, I also love Pinterest… maybe it’s because I planned a wedding, have a little one on the way & am hoping to buy a house. Oh goddamnit, I’m just REALLY old.

But if the truth be known, I guess I’m just really content. I’m happy with what’s going on in real life (or IRL as the cool kids would say). The rare time that I get with my friends or my husband, I want to spend with them, rather than online sharing every facet of my life. For now, I’ve made the decision to not share any pictures of the baby when it arrives on Twitter or Facebook. For now, I plan to use my blog, more as a digital scrapbook that we can look back on together as a family in the future (I still find it hard to believe that I have readers, but thank you!).

Contentment

Contentment

Is anybody else finding the same? Am I having this digital crisis on my own? I’d love to hear from you.

M xox

 

Melanie Kentish

Hi! My name's Mel and I'm a 30 something blogger living in Windsor, UK with my two ginger cats and a rather handsome husband. White Cotton Peonies is the place where you'll find my ramblings on health, fashion, beauty, food and my random adventures as a soon-to-be mum. Enjoy.

10 Comments

  1. Davinia

    02/02/2016

    Hi Mel

    I found that, although it’s lovely posting pics of you and your friends/husband/family at whatever party or occasion etc might be happening that particular week; when you start the next right of passage – having children, that all these things become, well, not less important but just catalogued into the ‘before children’ bracket. When children come along it is such a life changing moment, when you heart explodes with more love and pride than you’ve every felt you just want to share little moments with friends and family, and personally that is Facebook – it helped me to stay in contact with my NCT group, share ‘is my child normal’ moments with other new Mums and connect with local kids groups and on those dark days of looking like crap and my children crying all day (there are a few of those but the good days outweigh the bad) Facebook was my saviour and connection with the outside world. There is nothing more comforting than logging on during a 2am feed and seeing other Mum’s in the same boat! So for me Facebook is more important now I have children than before but I can only speak for my 37 year old self! Love Pinterest too it’s fab for home decor!! Feeling very old now so signing off!

    Love the blog! xxxx

    • Melanie Kentish

      02/02/2016

      Aw thanks Davinia! Really appreciate you taking the time to comment :) I’ve heard the same from other mums too… not to mention KIDLY’s Facebook page – my phone is constantly going off with people commenting on our posts in the middle of the night 😉 Anything that helps support & stay connected is good in my books! Hope that you’re well beauty xxx

  2. David P.

    02/02/2016

    I remember that 2007 SXSW – those were different times indeed. Glad I got to know you so well!

    Times are always changing – I don’t think you should blame any changed behavior on being old. In fact, in your post you’re just content, and part of it is that certain elements of your life aren’t really worth the time sharing and that’s where we learn on how to spend our time in a more quality way. Being smart about the fun ways in using social media to remain connected with our friends is also perhaps another learning experience. It is more fun to be selective and a bit more long-form with more substance than spending time sharing the proverbial what we had for lunch. At least that is more my experience and wising up – I feel like it is rather similar with your point as well.

    So happy with all of the incredible positive developments in your life – not to mention the new one inside of you! Hope to remain in touch from time to time via worthy social media updates – and hopefully in person again sometime soon as well!

    xox

    • Melanie Kentish

      02/02/2016

      Aw Mr P, it’s so good to hear from you. This for me, is the aspect that I love with Social – I cherish the relationships with people that I’ve made all around the world and keeping up to date with what’s going on your life. Let’s catch up IRL soon! :) xx

  3. the style crusader

    02/02/2016

    I totally feel you on this. I think the ultimate form of this for me comes in the form of Snapchat. How do people literally document every little thing going in their day? One person I follow actually shoots a picture of each toilet they pee into. Yes, and I’m actually following them. I don’t post much myself but I do creep on other people’s lives… albeit usually clicking through quickly and not bothering to hear what they have to say. Is it just another way to keep tabs on what’s happening.

    In terms of Facebook, I very rarely post anything there. Whenever I look at Facebook I generally just get this feeling of hating everyone on there… even though they are all technically my friends, or people I was friends with at one time. I always just end up wondering why I even bother to look at it.

    I feel like I kind of love Twitter recently. I guess because I work from home it’s nice to have a little outlet of people to talk to throughout the day.

    I’m still tapped into all these things although I guess I interact with them in a different way then I used to. I think there is definitely a digital crises afloat.

    xx

    • Melanie Kentish

      02/02/2016

      Totally with you! I guess the one thing that Twitter has been quite good for of late is looking for the hashtag relating to my stage of pregnancy to see what other people are going through – helping you to feel supported & not like you’re the only one experiencing things. I still love blogs and Insta’s mainly where I’m at now. I’ve tried time and time again to love Snapchat, but when I had to google “what value does Snapchat offer” I knew it was time to give up the game :) xx

  4. Steve Manley

    02/02/2016

    If it wasn’t for my business interests I could probably do without. I find a lot of it tedious however; I still log onto FB and find myself browsing aimlessly. I do now and then find a little gem of a post, such as yours, amongst the inane drivel that has taken over my news feed. Being content is good! Just do what continues to make you feel this way. Babies are fab, congrats 🍾 Soak up the time with them when they’re little as it doesn’t last long, social media can wait 😜

    • Melanie Kentish

      02/02/2016

      Aw Steve, you’re so lovely. I’m the same… I seem to spend a lot of time on there, mainly consuming (read: nosing) rather than producing. But also lots of time lost wading through dribble. Hope that you and the family are well lovely x

  5. Angela

    03/02/2016

    I feel the same, although there are no huge changes in my life, maybe we’re just kinda over it! I deleted my Twitter app a year ago and haven’t looked at it since!!! Facebook yeah it’s still there but purely out of nosiness. I do still love Instagram though and of course my favourite blogs, yours included 😉

    • Melanie Kentish

      04/02/2016

      Eeek, I’m still nervous at the permanency of deleting, but I’m definitely using it less that’s for sure Thank you for being so sweet! xx

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